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"Do not outsource your happiness" (On manufacturing your happiness)

You know what is funny about today?  I received a message from someone I absolutely despise that said  "Do not outsource your own happiness". It was thinly veiled mockery from someone to whom I had previously given the power to break me, and someone who abused that power over and over again because I had let them. The message absolutely triggered me, but I think the interesting thing about it is that yesterday, I wanted to write this post about manufacturing your own happiness. I think the universe was trying to tell me to do better for myself, to take accountability, to get the f*ck up. As someone who is a bit of an expert on outsourced happiness, I'll first start off by telling you what it does to you over time. You create giants out of ants: Making someone else the source of your happiness could take even the most uninteresting, unimportant people and elevate them in your world. They gain a certain level of control over you. They could decide at will what to make of yo...

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