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Let's talk about sex (on making hits when you're hitting it)

I have truly come a long way. When I first discovered the joy of self-pleasuring, I would be so guilt-ridden after each episode that I would employ extreme preventative measures: I would ask god to kill me if I attempted it again. I, of course, still did it time and time again, and I lived with this shame. Until one day, I fearfully mentioned this to one of my closest friends who did not seem to think this was such a big deal. Her reaction was no reaction; she acted as though it was a completely normal thing to do and even let me know that I was not alone. That conversation changed the course of my life; from that day onwards, I treated sexuality as a normal and acceptable part of human existence.  As such, I navigate sex without shame, and within certain logical boundaries which I set for myself. I enjoy sensuality and pleasure, and I employ moderation, as one should, in all things. In that vein, I've been listening to my body over the last couple of years, as she has put up resis...

A day in the life of the broken-hearted (on...well, heartbreak)

What's a god to...(On religion)

On Feminism (My perspective as a Nigerian woman)

A thousand different ways (On change and adaptability)

No place to call home (On being Nigerian)

50/50? (On the burden of domestic labour)

Consent (On the "elementary" bits)

Is this really it? (On embracing the mundane)

The Not-so-boyfriend (On labelling romance)

Who decides?( On morality and judgement)

Maybe I'm not good enough- (On my quarter-life crisis, procrastination and the confusion of adulthood)